Finding Confidence, Growth, and Resilience After Life’s Unexpected Falls
Earlier this season, I experienced a concussion and was in recovery mode, all while people I love were being admitted to memory care facilities. Seeing them struggle shook me to my core. I also remembered how fragile my mother became in her final days. At the same time, my own body reminded me of its fragility.
What many don’t know is that the fall on the ice wasn’t the first. Two weeks earlier, I had fallen off a box while doing box jumps and hit my head on the wall in front of me. Two falls in two weeks. These incidents shook my confidence more than I expected. I found myself spiraling with worries:
What is happening to me?
Why am I falling?
Am I ok?
Do I need to worry?
It got bad enough that I knew I needed support to shift out of fear and back into confidence.
“Falling is not failing. Each stumble is an opportunity to rise stronger, with more wisdom than before.” — Dr. Brene Brown, Researcher & Author
Here’s the guidance I received and the lessons I want to share with anyone navigating fear, injury, or uncertainty:
1. Be grateful.
While I fell twice, I didn’t break any bones, and I didn’t lose consciousness. I may have felt tired, but I wasn’t “out of it.” Gratitude doesn’t erase challenges, but it grounds you in reality and perspective.
2. Move your body, even gently.
Movement creates Molecules of Hope, aka myokines, that flood your body with feel-good hormones. These don’t have to be big, intense moves. Even small, intentional motion delivers an ocean of love to your system and reminds you: I am still capable.
3. Modifications are wisdom, not weakness.
Having to modify movements while working out is not a sign of incompetence. It’s a sign of intelligence and awareness. Modifications are always part of a smart training plan and necessary to move you forward safely. Think of it as a customized workout, not a limited one.
4. Perfection is limiting.
If something is already perfect, how do you scale for growth? There’s no growth in perfection. The goal is always improvement, exploration, and evolution—not an unattainable ideal.
5. Seek growth opportunities everywhere.
For me, growth means investing in myself as a wellness architect and coach. I’ve enrolled in a 6-month course to earn my International Coaching Federation credentials. I’m also pursuing my kettlebell coaching certification and being coached by a top-level fitness coach with extensive credentials. Growth often hides in challenges; the obstacles themselves are the lessons.
Once I began to think this way, I was able to shift my spiralling negative thoughts to more optimistic ones. The dark cloud hanging over me vanished. I was back!
As we stand on the precipice of a bright New Year, it’s easy to make long lists of resolutions to “be better.” But I challenge you to narrow your focus. Seek growth in opportunities that feel like obstacles because that’s exactly where transformation happens.
“Perfection is the enemy of growth. Progress is built in the small steps, adjustments, and learning from every challenge.” — Dr. Kelly McGonigal, Health Psychologist
If you’re ready to find your confidence, strengthen your body, and reclaim your energy, check out my coaching opportunities:
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Your body, mind, and potential are waiting. This is your invitation to step forward into movement, growth, and unwavering confidence. To step into the MOST AMAZING VERSION OF YOURSELF YET!
